Rabbi Telushkin adds one phrase to Rabbi Riemer’s list: “I am sorry”. He acknowledges that for most of us this is far from easy yet indispensable if we sincerely wish to heal the pain we might have caused.
Disagreements and feuds do happen; this is unfortunately part of being a human being. Yet, especially at this time of year, we are mandated to make ammends with the people we have harmed.
Rabbi Telushkin reminds us that:
a person who sincerely repents on Yom Kippur will be forgiven for any sins he or she has committed against God. But the Day of Atonement cannot bring about forgiveness of sins against any other person until one goes to the person one has hurt and speaks healing words.
While this is certainly a hard thing to do, at least for me, I welcome the yearly opportunity and reminder.
Therefore if I have hurt you in any way through my comments (or lack of) or through clumsiness, I hope you will accept my apology and forgive me.